Resilience
and bouncing back is all about what you decide to make of any negative
situation and what you're going to do with it. The faster you move on to a
positive emotion, the better off you are. The inclination of our times is to
think that talking about every negative thing that ever happened to you to a
therapist is often not about resilience and healing, but is rather about
creating victims. These 'victims' talk about their negative issues far too long
without making significant plans to "feel better" and to "feel
good". We are a nation of people psychologized into being
"victims", talking bout the game, rather than actively playing it,
and resenting the fact that we aren't. We give much too much attention to what
is wrong rather than what is right. We focus much too much light on problems
and negative feelings and not nearly enough with getting on with it. We are
made to be resilient and to "bounce back". And the process of healing
depends on the forward moving process of growth to bring strength, resilience
and "bounce back".
The
Emotional Gym is about getting on with it, about your capacity to feel positive
feelings and to build strong emotional muscle into your life without dwelling
on every negative event and emotion that has occurred in your life.
Growing
the Positive Mind, Dr. William K. Larkin
This struck me as if it is an undeniable truth that has only just been identified. So good May.
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